Trying to find your way as new parents can feel a bit like groping in the dark, which is, ironically, not dissimilar to how the journey towards parenthood begins for most people.
So, to shed some light on the issue I decided to ask some of my friends with kids for their advice on the matter.
And this is what I was told (corrected for punctuation and grammar, of course).
“Trust your instincts about your own child. What works for others might not work for you, and that’s okay. You know your own kid.”
“Stay a child yourself, connect on their level. So do water fights, build forts, play with Lego, sing out loud, etc.”
“I’d say go with the flow and have fun! That’s what I’ve learned most in the last 2 years with my little one.”
“Always carry a bible with you while you’re in public with your kids. Not to calm yourself down to read it when they act up, but in case you might have to do an exorcism.”
— Shawna H.
“Write down your assumptions then immediately throw ‘em in the trash. None of it will matter.”
“Just be there, make time for them. They have no message in all those office hours you put in.”
“Don’t have kids unless you’re prepared to centre your life on them for 20 years.”
“Bad behavior can be changed in a week if the parents are strong enough to last the 7 days of pain the kids will bring.”
— Eric E.
“Be as consistent as the laws of physics!”
“Get a dog.”
“Enjoy it and photograph the hell out of it.”
“Don’t make rules you aren’t going to keep.”
— Jay T.
“Ignore 99% of parenting advice. There is only one expert on raising your kids. You.”
“Give them an iPad and let it raise them.”
“Don’t call your kids “little shits”. It puts bad energy on the kid. Hugs and snugs often. Do all the fun things. Discipline is necessary. Kids respect the parent who gives their life order. Feed them healthy food. Let them help with anything they are interested in. Nurture their spirit & nurture their interests. Don’t get worried over their obsession with dinosaurs.”
“Where do I start? How about, ‘There’s no single piece of advice that will get you through parenting.’”
“Sleep when the baby sleeps.”
— Pretty much everyone who commented on my last post
Please feel free to add your own advice below!
(*I can neither confirm nor deny that those quoted above are actual parents.)
Image by Jitterousperth.