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Say hello to Lachlan Jr*.

Once I’ve had more than three hours sleep — maybe check back on me in 18 years? — I’m sure I’ll process the whole birthing experience and write something witty, moving and insightful.

But for now, here are two brief but unrelated thoughts from our first ten days of parenthood:

  1. Tiredness and fatigue are two completely different things — though they’re quite lovely when combined!
  2. All the boy does is eat, sleep and break wind, which, if nothing else, is a comforting reminder that my genes have been successfully passed on to the next generation.

Please include your advice on how to get a good night’s sleep in the comments below.

*Not his real name.


Image by Lachlan Payne.

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329 Comments

  • bowlerholic says: July 17, 2013 at 5:48 PM

    I was one of the few parents that had 2 children, a daughter and a son, that both slept through the night before they were 2 weeks old! I just made sure they had a full tummy before putting them in their crib for the night. I also tried to keep them awake a little longer each day during the day. I really believe all of this helped. Good luck and what a beautiful baby!

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  • sublimester says: July 17, 2013 at 5:48 PM

    cute.. :)

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  • bowlerholic says: July 17, 2013 at 5:51 PM

    I almost forgot to say “Congratulations” to you and Cathy on the birth of your son!

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  • mrsgillies says: July 17, 2013 at 5:56 PM

    Congratulations!!!

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  • meticulousmick says: July 17, 2013 at 5:57 PM

    Congratulations to you both, well all three really. MM

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  • Olivier Vanbiervliet (@ovan) says: July 17, 2013 at 5:59 PM

    Don’t forget to ask friends/family to take over a day or night when you need it. Something we couldn’t or didn’t dare to do.

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    • Lachlan Payne says: July 17, 2013 at 6:00 PM

      Good advice O, and something we’ve already done a few times. Very fortunate to have parents very nearby, and a handful of folks bringing us meals the last ten days.

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  • Mr Bunny Chow says: July 17, 2013 at 6:06 PM

    Congratulations, you are very lucky to have local family it’s certainly something that I wish we had and we’ve been stupid enough to have two boys.

    Every stage is only a phase and gets better with time, we’re over 3 years into this parenting game and are shocked, horrified and confused when we get less than 7 hours sleep again.

    Enjoy what you can and sleep when Lachlan Jr. does

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  • RC Anderson, Ph.D. says: July 17, 2013 at 6:06 PM

    Congratulations. It does almost feel like 18 years before you will get a good nights sleep again, but it is all worth it.

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  • Iris B says: July 17, 2013 at 6:08 PM

    Congratulations !!!!!!!!

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  • miso808 says: July 17, 2013 at 7:00 PM

    Congrats, he is beautiful! Sleep when he sleeps and try to take turns with a schedule. Enjoy! It only gets better from here!

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  • cyardin says: July 17, 2013 at 7:02 PM

    Congratulations!

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  • John says: July 17, 2013 at 7:12 PM

    Congratulations … having no kids, I have no advice …. but, I understand sleep in a luxury for the first several months.

    So, besides congrats, I’ll wish you energy and strength! :-)

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  • Southern Wonder says: July 17, 2013 at 7:13 PM

    Wow! Congratulations!

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  • Caro says: July 17, 2013 at 7:15 PM

    Oh so lovely .. Congrats!! What an amazing adventure..

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  • Megan Kay's Blog says: July 17, 2013 at 7:18 PM

    Congratulations!!
    Oh, and slip your wife a tequila right before the last feed…
    That was a joke… Sort of… ;)

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  • fieldsofspring says: July 17, 2013 at 7:37 PM

    He is so adorable :)

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  • Coco Di says: July 17, 2013 at 7:44 PM

    Cute! Congratulations!

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  • crabbymommy says: July 17, 2013 at 7:47 PM

    Congratulations! This is a wonderful moment, enjoy it. Fatigue and sleep deprivation is now officially a part of life! I had twins in my second pregnancy and my freind, who recently had a baby boy said that when she’d feed sleepy and tired shed’ think of me and feel better! Imagine if you had two of these right now? Yeah. Not funny, right?

    It passes, somehow.

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  • gypsysapphire says: July 17, 2013 at 7:47 PM

    Congratulations to both of you!

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  • B says: July 17, 2013 at 8:07 PM

    Congratulations to both of you. The fun has started!

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  • stevenjwillard says: July 17, 2013 at 8:25 PM

    Blessings on you all. I admire your courage and optimism, and share your joy. Congratulations.

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  • M1ch3ll says: July 17, 2013 at 8:40 PM

    Congrats! Our little nunu sleeps with us (please do not judge). She is just an arm throw away when she is need which means the whole house gets more sleep. I expresses milk for my hubby so that he could feed our daughter when I needed some extra shut eye.

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  • mommytrainingwheels says: July 17, 2013 at 8:49 PM

    Congrats! Such a beautiful baby boy. Sleep will come in time, but depends on so many factors that there’s no secret recipe. I’m nearly 8 months in and still getting up twice per night with my son, but it is definitely better than it was in the beginning.

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  • brightonsauce says: July 17, 2013 at 9:32 PM

    He is very cute, although Australian;)

    Goodness, you’ll have some good times with him. You’ll be his hero – till he gets to about fifteen and starts laughing at you. A total bundle of joy, you’re blessed.

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  • dianelindstrom says: July 17, 2013 at 9:32 PM

    When we had our first child, someone sent us a card and it said something like, Congratulations on the birth of your first child….(and on the inside), it said, “life as you once knew it is now over.” So true. I suggest learning how to take naps while you’re standing up!

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    • Lachlan Payne says: July 17, 2013 at 10:33 PM

      I’ve been starting to get that feeling, too.

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  • In Somnis Veritas says: July 17, 2013 at 9:53 PM

    What a darling : ) Congratulations! The only advice I can give is: they are more resilient than you think, sleep when they sleep for the first week or two, rely on family (if you can) to help you, make sure to wrap him tight when putting him to sleep so he feels being held without being held – trust me this last one is important. The worst thing we did with our first is rock him to sleep so with the other two we knew that we’d never get sleep if we started that.

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    • Lachlan Payne says: July 17, 2013 at 9:56 PM

      Thanks for that advice. Very helpful!

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  • barelyherenorthere says: July 17, 2013 at 10:13 PM

    Congratulations…I wholeheartedly agree with In Somnis Veritas….never, never, rock them to sleep. If you feel the urge, put the baby down and walk away…slowly. trust me they settle much quicker this way and by week 3 or 4 you’ll be pros! Also i found having a comforter that had a little of my scent, (advice was to sleep with it for a night before giving it to the baby) gave the baby the idea that i was still around. Also, just enjoy, take it in turns and be aware it’s all just a phase…one after the other, they’ll grow out of it sooner or later… but congratulations again…such joyful news.

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  • White Pearl says: July 17, 2013 at 10:29 PM

    I can understand !! The boy is so cute :) xx

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  • AuntieLex says: July 17, 2013 at 10:37 PM

    Sleep when they sleep… Everything else can wait… Congrats!

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  • sarsrose says: July 17, 2013 at 10:57 PM

    congratulations!

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  • Carly'z Corner says: July 17, 2013 at 11:07 PM

    Congratulations! He is beautiful. Well a good night’s sleep will not come until he is on a schedule and will sleep through the night. I am a single parent and my best advice is for you to sleep when he sleeps. The dishes, the laundry and a clean house can wait! Have fun!

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  • pastorlinzey says: July 17, 2013 at 11:09 PM

    Congratulations! What an exciting time! As for suggestions for sleep, it really depends on your situation. My wife decided to nurse all three of ours, so there was really nothing I could do in the middle of the night when it was time for the little ones to eat. I know, I know, I’m REALLY disappointed that my job was to sleep while she fed the baby…. If you guys are bottle feeding, then I would suggest you have set shifts where one can sleep and one can feed. If you’re comfortable, wear earplugs to bed. And, as much as possible, nap.

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  • onefitmomslife says: July 17, 2013 at 11:21 PM

    With babies the best thing to remember us that they do not sleep through the night until their body knows they can do so safely. Being woke up is actually a great thing for parents. Best advice sleep when he sleeps! Take turns napping when he naps. Whatever you have to do. Best of Luck and congratulations! Happy Babymoon!

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  • Trevor Beech says: July 18, 2013 at 12:16 AM

    4 daughters 17 grandchildren there is no escape.
    Congratulations to you and your wife and welcome to your new son. the sleepless nights are worth it.

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  • annarosemeeds says: July 18, 2013 at 12:38 AM

    Congratulations, he is darling!

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  • iliannamathioudakis says: July 18, 2013 at 1:37 AM

    Congratulations, he is really cute!

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  • TamrahJo says: July 18, 2013 at 1:57 AM

    When the baby sleeps, you sleep. Do NOT be lulled into, “While the baby’s sleeping I can do laundry, housework, office work, etc.” For the first few weeks, rest when he does.

    Comfy, dry and full tummy aide with sleeping – mid-night feedings done with lights low, sounds soft and activity only geared towards renewing the comfy, dry, full – back down once accomplished aides in nighttime not becoming playtime.

    Congratulations and chin-up – the tiredness doesn’t last forever! :)

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  • spagically says: July 18, 2013 at 2:06 AM

    Very very cute baby :) congratulations and well done to all of you! wishing you all the best for your three new lives :D hope you find sleep but also tons of new surprises and joys and lots of laughter.

    I think my parents managed my two other siblings and myself with old fashioned spartanism: baby crying, leave it, he/she will go back to sleep again when they’re too tired to continue/too exhausted to feel hungry anymore. Despite this, as a baby I was very healthy and nicknamed “the michelin baby” (I was a very good eater). It does sound harsh these days but I will point out that all three of us are big, fit, strong adults today so…
    Enjoy your ride with parenthood! as long as you can laugh about it all,(even if it’s some time down the line) it’s all good. And thanks for your very interesting and lovely blog. x

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    • jwyaun says: July 18, 2013 at 3:11 AM

      I’m really glad you and your siblings turned out well, but this is incredibly dangerous advice. Please do not leave a tiny infant alone to cry themselves to sleep especially so that he will be “too exhausted to feel hungry anymore.” Like I said glad you are OK but if that is what your parents did to you, it was criminal neglect.

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  • Leslie Jo says: July 18, 2013 at 2:08 AM

    Congratulations to your new little family! Enjoy all of it, even the parts you don’t remember because you’re too tired, because it goes so fast, and it gives you great material for blog posts!

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  • jwyaun says: July 18, 2013 at 3:14 AM

    One thing that might help is some white noise, either a small box fan or small clock radio turned to static at a low volume or some such. Also night time is dark and boring, all we do in the night is nurse and if absolutely necessary a diaper change/comfort measures. No playing, no TV, nothing stimulating. Get out of the house with the baby every day, even if it’s just for a quick stroll around the block or to lay on a blanket in the yard. Everything is new and stimulating and interesting for him. A daily outing, even if it’s brief and very local, really helps wear them out at this age. Congratulations!

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  • mrsbearfoot says: July 18, 2013 at 3:32 AM

    Congratulations on the birth of your son; he’s beautiful!

    We’ve never had children of our own, but I see many new parents swaddling their baby, which supposedly helps the baby sleep longer. From Mayo Clinic: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/how-to-swaddle-a-baby/MY01766 Hope this, in turn, helps all of you sleep better.

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  • Jackie says: July 18, 2013 at 3:36 AM

    I’ve heard food things about co-sleeping.

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    • Jackie says: July 18, 2013 at 3:37 AM

      Ugh. Good, not food!

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  • alostteen says: July 18, 2013 at 3:49 AM

    Congratulations! I’m so happy for you both :) your baby boy is absolutely beautiful x

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  • Nox Aisling says: July 18, 2013 at 3:57 AM

    Beautiful child. Congratulations, I’m sure you’ll do great

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  • magyarok27 says: July 18, 2013 at 4:05 AM

    Congrats!! Precious!

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  • pepperhawk says: July 18, 2013 at 4:26 AM

    Lachlan,

    Congratulations first! What a beautiful miracle, the birth of a child. I’m sure you are a proud parent. Your baby is gorgeous. And what a sweet picture of him.

    Advice? I had only one child who slept through the night in 2 weeks as your first comment said. I did the same with mine, made sure he had his tummy full and rocked him until he fell asleep. This does not work for everyone though. You know of course that we are all different and some babies take longer. So I don’t really know what to tell you. I know if you have a rough night, it’s best to take a nap when they do, but that’s not always possible either. With your illness that may not work to help the fatigue. The best of luck to you.

    Oh, and thank you for putting a like on my post.

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  • charliezero1.wordpress.com says: July 18, 2013 at 4:37 AM

    Congratulations to the both of you.

    I don’t have advice on sleeping…but hopefully in time you’ll get some good sleep then. :)

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  • ARIS Faith says: July 18, 2013 at 4:43 AM

    Congrats! He looks Precious.
    If he is having trouble sleeping, getting some lavender or chamomile baby wash can help. When used with warm water it can almost sooth babies right to sleep.

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  • Aimee says: July 18, 2013 at 4:44 AM

    What a beautiful boy!! Congratulations! I have no good advice, other than to reassure you that all babies do eventually sleep!!! Sleep while he sleeps, even if it’s only for 20 minutes. And take turns so that you both get at least some sleep every day. Good luck and God Bless!!

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  • mfisher72671 says: July 18, 2013 at 6:58 AM

    What a beautiful son! Congratulations! As a mom of 4 (now 24, 21, 16 and 14) sleep when he sleeps, the housework and everything else will still be there later. Don’t be stubborn, accept the help of family and friends! It sounds like you have already. Most of all, enjoy every little thing. Take loads of pictures. Take time to just be together and be a family. The most amazing thing is re=learning to see the world through your sons eyes. Everything is new to him and will be to you, too. Never tell him, “Just a minute, son” To him a minute is forever and to him, what he has to say or show you is the world. Watch the clouds from a blanket and find different shapes in them together. Do the same with the stars. Before you know it, time will have slipped away. You’ll miss all those moments. Even the phases that, at the time, you’ll wish would hurry up and pass. :-)

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  • justme0486 says: July 18, 2013 at 7:07 AM

    So happy for you. Blessings :)

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  • catholictwentysomething says: July 18, 2013 at 7:30 AM

    How wonderful! God bless.

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  • Hopeje says: July 18, 2013 at 7:41 AM

    Congratulation ! I wanted to congratulate you for being so fast liking my last post!
    And what a beautiful picture, I discover!
    Your new born, congratulation again!

    A good night! Took us couple of years to have one from time to time.

    One advice, we never followed, which might explain why! Never let your baby sleep in your bed or bedroom, or be very firm and let him in his bed!

    I and we were totally incapable or not willing to do it!

    Might be our mistake explaining our bad nights!

    However I don t regret my ” mistake” and we finally sleep better after 7/8 years ;-)

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  • Angi says: July 18, 2013 at 7:55 AM

    Congratulations to you both and your new bundle of joy <3

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  • Mike Crape says: July 18, 2013 at 9:18 AM

    Beautiful, congratulations to you and Cathy. Advice, enjoy life’s greatest blessing.

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  • Linda Andrews says: July 18, 2013 at 11:24 AM

    Congrats, but I warn you. It’s been 23 years since our first born and I still haven’t slept a night through:D

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  • Gather and Graze says: July 18, 2013 at 11:25 AM

    A big warm welcome to your dear little boy! Congratulations to you both. :)

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  • musingmar says: July 18, 2013 at 11:46 AM

    Congratulations, and here’s to the adventures of parenthood ahead! Getting a good night’s sleep? Time will take care of that … there’ll be a period between baby demands and laying awake waiting for your teenager to come home where you’ll sleep more or less normally!

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  • John says: July 18, 2013 at 11:47 AM

    Excited for you Lunch! Sleep? Your kidding right? Anyway, babysitter, hotel room on the beach, shots and cocktails. That’s 57.5 collective years experience talking. It’s all worth it.

    Much love,
    ~J

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  • lifeisfullofsunnydays says: July 18, 2013 at 12:31 PM

    Congrats.

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  • mandala56 says: July 18, 2013 at 3:45 PM

    Congratulations! What a lovely photo. I don’t know about the sleep part…we had the family bed going for a number of years. I have five kids. I think it helps to know they are close by and asleep, not in another room…. tell mom to sleep whenever he’s asleep and not to go doing other stuff. It’s hard for a while, but it will get better.

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  • Ms.Z. says: July 18, 2013 at 6:20 PM

    Congratulations! He’s a cutie!

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  • Beyond Terrigal says: July 18, 2013 at 10:27 PM

    Congratulations, nothing can turn your world upside down and inside out in the way the ride of having a baby ( or two or three ) does….and it never stops doing that no matter the years that pass. But , its the best ride in life. As to sleep.. well experience tells me once you don he parent hat, the amount you need ( as opposed to what you used to want) is very minimal. Whether having sleep with you or not , my suggestion is to rest whenever he does. Dirty dishes , messy houses are still there later.Enjoy every moment, record it in your mind and on the camera.Besides, sleep deprivation now trains you for the same thing you do again when they hit 18 and go nightclubbing to the wee hours.. while you sit up watching the clock tick :) You truly are blessed.

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  • mcsirishart says: July 18, 2013 at 10:39 PM

    Congratulations to you both,he’s beautiful. :)

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  • Diana Hernandez says: July 18, 2013 at 11:45 PM

    Your little munchkin—if you don’t mind me calling him that—is absolutely perfect.

    My advice: As a daughter who has a Ph.D. in driving her parents nuts, I would suggest investing in a mini-bar.

    Just kidding…

    Kinda…

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  • tornin2 says: July 18, 2013 at 11:54 PM

    Give it a few weeks and you’ll be able to get a decent nights sleep. As a teenage boys mother, I can tell you 16 years has flown by fast. Cherish these moments and these years because as they grow they will still eat, sleep, and break wind every step of the way. It’s just much cuter when they are young. :)

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  • bettysbrownies says: July 19, 2013 at 4:02 AM

    Congratulations on the newbie! How you found the time to stop by and like my post is beyond me. My best to the three of you.

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  • ksbeth says: July 19, 2013 at 10:44 AM

    Wonderful news, and hold on for 18 years, you’ll sleep again one day )

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  • Ruth says: July 19, 2013 at 2:52 PM

    Sleep when he sleeps if you can. There is a book called Baby Sleep Solution – a friend mentioned but only know of one person who actually did it. My kids are all grown and have flown the nest and I still lose sleep over them sometimes.http://www.amazon.com/The-Baby-Sleep-Solution-Program/dp/0399532919
    might be worth looking at in the book store. Or maybe it is bs don’t know but check it out.

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  • anunperfectactor says: July 19, 2013 at 3:33 PM

    Thanks for reading my story, and congratulations on your baby. As for sleep, there is no secret. Sleep when he does. That’s all you can do.

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  • bloggerbecky says: July 19, 2013 at 4:24 PM

    Thanks for liking my blog post! I am returning the favor by reading yours. :) Your blog is great!

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  • Andrea says: July 19, 2013 at 4:30 PM

    Congrats he’s adorable and so very, very new looking! I’ve had 12 kids, the fog lifts eventually, hang in there.

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  • contructiveconservative says: July 19, 2013 at 4:37 PM

    Congratulations and all the best wishes for you and yours in the future.

    In terms of advice, and I have not read all the comments, if there is breast feeding involved it is not nhtecessary to remove the baby from the immediate area each and every time….Just a thought to consider with a tip of the hat to the fact that pros and cons must be carefully considered.

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  • Howling Wolf says: July 19, 2013 at 7:42 PM

    Congratulations! On how to get a good night’s sleep? Forgetaboutit! This is your new normal:)

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  • ETat says: July 19, 2013 at 9:36 PM

    Yay! Welcome, Lachlan Jr Not His Real Name!

    I have been checking this blog for updates of the good news, and finally – got it. Thank you for thinking of your readers, Lachlan.
    Congrats!

    Alas, a good night’s sleep is a thing of the past. My coping mechanism 27 yrs ago, if I remember correctly, was to collect minutes of slumber as they come – half-n-hour here, 10 min there; at night I was sleeping on baby’s schedule, between his feedings, and during the day – between that and all the house chores I had to provide to my family.
    Try that for 6 months (that’s how far I went with the breastfeeding)!
    I should’ve patented it as a perfect method for loosing postpartum weight.

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  • jensine says: July 19, 2013 at 9:43 PM

    not a mum so no idea … unless you get your mum to mind him for a night

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    • Lachlan Payne says: July 19, 2013 at 10:30 PM

      No advice is better than bad advice!

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      • jensine says: July 19, 2013 at 10:40 PM

        i know and they it can be MY fault

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  • Jill Weatherholt says: July 19, 2013 at 10:32 PM

    Congratulations!

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  • Gina Sue says: July 20, 2013 at 2:35 AM

    Congrats! He is beautiful. Co-sleeping was a Godsend to us. Feedings were easy and there was minimal fussing. But whatever works best for you, you will get the swing of things eventually. It’s new to all of you! And besides who needs sleep when you have something so amazing, magical, beautiful, and perfect to spend those long wakeful moments with. The time flies by, so enjoy it to the fullest! Congratulations again! And welcome to the world little man!

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  • gjpaul says: July 20, 2013 at 5:47 AM

    Well, you’re in for it now… ha ha.. The MOST beautiful part of life… our children.

    btw : bright light prompts the mind’s chemistry for alertness… go into a darkened area or so an hour before tryng to nap, or turn down the lights to a soft low-watt yellow light.

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  • janemcbee says: July 20, 2013 at 6:15 AM

    A good night’s sleep? Surely you jest! ;-)

    So happy for you guys.

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  • gjpaul says: July 20, 2013 at 6:25 AM

    I also wanted to mention, life’s Soul has holy powers… the powers of belief. Under times of worry or/and stress, write a list of things which have crossed your mind recently, then set your Heart to positive outcomes, and do not accept fear nor reluctance nor doubt… believe with a whole-Hearted sincerity… and know this, an inner voice of question WILL speak , and more than once, usually 3 times… keep fast your positive belief.

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  • Five Quick Minutes says: July 20, 2013 at 6:50 AM

    Thank you for following us today! We always appreciate new readers and try to visit them when we can. Have a great weekend!

    Christian

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  • dktbg says: July 20, 2013 at 7:32 AM

    Congratulations! Every little one is different. I have 7 and I was VERY blessed that all of them slept through the night within the first two weeks so I don’t know the feeling you are experiencing right now. They are a joy and my life as I know your little one is to you. The journey with them is miraculous and extraordinary. Enjoy it!

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  • Bobbie Keith says: July 20, 2013 at 10:12 AM

    Congratulations on the birth of jr…beautiful baby boy. Enjoyed your recent posts and have no advice to give. Ha!!

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  • sweetbellavita says: July 20, 2013 at 12:38 PM

    congrats!!! :) he is beautiful ….as for advice … co-spleeping , and breastfeeding helped me get a little more sleep but i still haven’t slept threw the night in almost a decade now … but i wouldn’t change a thing :)

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  • nightskyradio says: July 20, 2013 at 6:11 PM

    “Please include your advice on how to get a good night’s sleep in the comments below”

    Is that trick question?

    Congratulations!

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  • lynseyloves says: July 20, 2013 at 8:00 PM

    Congratulations!! He’s beautiful! I don’t have any children of my own but I heard swaddling the baby in its crib helps him sleep longer as it helps him feel more secure, which I’d not of heard before. Good luck, I’m sure he’s going to bring you lots of happiness!! X

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    • Lachlan Payne says: July 20, 2013 at 8:02 PM

      Thank you. We’ve been swaddling him up as tight as we can. Seems to help.

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  • My Little Rio Journal says: July 20, 2013 at 10:03 PM

    Congratulations for your little boy! God bless him and your family! And by my experience when a baby boy wakes in the middle of the night, most of the time he is hungry! Feed him and he might sleep… the problem is that the mom stays almost all night long breastfeeding : )! But remember this is only a phase , and soon you will miss those asleepless nights!

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  • dominateyourdiagnosis says: July 20, 2013 at 11:49 PM

    Congratulations! What a precious gift you have been given that you will grow to love more and more with each passing year. Sleep will come over time. ; )

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  • yarnspinnerr says: July 21, 2013 at 12:30 AM

    Congratulations.

    Blessings to Jr.
    :-)

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  • jennymiller62 says: July 21, 2013 at 1:02 AM

    Congratulations on your beautiful baby boy! Hope the sleep comes soon. And thanks for liking my blog.

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  • The Visible Woman says: July 21, 2013 at 1:36 AM

    you forgot to mention pooh, they do that a lot too!

    my first reaction was aaahhh.
    my second was don’t get broody

    congratulations…and forget having a life for a while

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  • elisedds says: July 21, 2013 at 2:00 AM

    What a beautiful child! Many congratulations!

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  • babushkablue says: July 21, 2013 at 2:25 AM

    Beautiful boy! You won’t get a good night’s sleep for years. it’s okay, well worth it.

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  • kareninhonolulu says: July 21, 2013 at 4:08 AM

    my advise would be is to make sure he is warm and dry and has a full tummy. Then wait 25 years and enjoy your sleep.

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  • soniaraowrites says: July 21, 2013 at 5:42 AM

    Heartiest Congratulations to you and Cathy. Lachlan jr is such a sweetheart of a baby. As for sleeping bit, I had my first full night’s sleep exactly one month after my son was born. Or maybe I had just passed out after a month of sleepless exhaustion. :)

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  • soniaraowrites says: July 21, 2013 at 5:45 AM

    *as for the sleeping bit* (can’t see an edit tab, hence)

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  • chickenasana says: July 21, 2013 at 8:27 AM

    Huge congratulations! He’s absolutely beautiful.

    Welcome to the land of half drunk cups of tea/coffee. Days will pass in a blur. Nights will not be the same again for a while, probably. Best suggestion I have is for you and Cathy to snatch sleep where and whenever you can. I didn’t and sleep deprivation set in very quickly. Sleep deprivation makes you nuttier than a bag of squirrels. Don’t go there if you can help it. The average length of the first sleep cycle is 90 minutes and subsequent cycles are 100 to 120 minutes. You need REM sleep so much more than you might think you do, so do whatever it takes to get it. If Cathy’s breastfeeding, she can do that lying down – you can bring baby to her and then change him and settle him again so she doesn’t have to get up. If you’re bottle feeding, you can take that in turns.

    On the housework front, if you like to keep a very neat environment, gird your loins and let it go as much as you can – only do the absolute necessary stuff. Believe me, by the time your beautiful boy is four, as mine is, you’ll have trained your mind to ignore stuff that you never would have before. Life is messy. Get in there early and look beyond any perceived disaster area and save your energy.

    If anyone offers to help, jump on them immediately and ask for what you need done most. Maybe a simple meal, maybe a load of washing, maybe holding your beautiful baby for you while you get some sleep or have a shower or actually manage to drink an entire cup of tea/coffee. People like to help and helping someone feels good. Give someone the opportunity to feel good every day.

    Work together, be kind to each other look after one another as best you can. This is an exhausting, stressful time for many new parents. Babies are undeniably gorgeous but new parents can quickly find themselves stressed and overwhelmed and exhausted. Exhaustion can turn even the most mild mannered soul into a raging demon foaming at the mouth. Always remember when either of you is starting to turn into a possessed maniac, that it’s the sleep deprivation and stress talking. Decide early on to forgive immediately.

    And lastly, although it may seem endless, it isn’t. It does get so much easier in so many ways. If you’re knackered and people try to tell you that you should enjoy this special time, feel free to kick them in the shins rather than feel guilty for not enjoying every second. It’s hard to enjoy stuff when you’re chronically sleep deprived. But in the midst of that, know that you may just look back in the not too distant future and wonder where the time went. Life will definitely assume some semblance of normality again.

    Best wishes!

    Wishing you all well!

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  • audrina1759 says: July 21, 2013 at 11:46 PM

    Congratulations.

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  • argentumvulgaris says: July 22, 2013 at 1:30 AM

    Congratulations on your ‘like father, like son’ event. This is what they call payback time, giving you the same treatment as you undoubtedly gave your parents… :-)

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  • A. B. Davis says: July 22, 2013 at 4:06 AM

    Alternate taking shots of NyQuil?

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    • Lachlan Payne says: July 24, 2013 at 10:38 PM

      Me first, then the baby?

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      • A. B. Davis says: July 25, 2013 at 1:03 AM

        I meant you and your wife. Lol but that could work too. You would have enough time before passing out to administer it I think.

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  • Brosephus says: July 22, 2013 at 4:29 AM

    Welcome to parenthood. I have no advice for getting a good night’s sleep as I have no clue as to what that would feel like. As the proud father of two girls, my only advice is to enjoy it all, including the breaking wind. Watching babies learn has got to be one of the best rewards of being a parent. As for sleep, you’ll find creative ways to get some of it no matter the time or place.

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  • wordsfortrade says: July 22, 2013 at 4:36 AM

    Congratulations!!!!

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  • wordsfortrade says: July 22, 2013 at 4:37 AM

    Parenthood is absolutely tiring and fatiguing wait for exhaustion and humiliation next!

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  • Jess says: July 22, 2013 at 8:09 AM

    Sleep when you can! Baby takes a nap, you take a nap. Your boss leaves the office, you take a nap. Stopped at red light, you take a nap. Watch some TV…. while taking a nap.

    Can you tell by my awesome advise that I’m SO not a mom yet? Even so… Congratulations! Very exciting!

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    • butterflymumma says: July 23, 2013 at 7:13 AM

      More bad news – take all the naps you like, you’re going to feel kinda tired until you start get 6 hours sleep all at once (probably around 2 months old). Coping strategy? Don’t count the hours, go by how you feel. Take it slow and don’t be too ambitious for now. It DOES get better.

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  • craftythriftydecoratingwifemom says: July 22, 2013 at 9:27 AM

    An adorable bundle of joy. You’ll remember this with good thoughts one day….when you’ve gotten some sleep! Congrats to the 3 of you.
    Janet

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  • butterflymumma says: July 23, 2013 at 7:10 AM

    Congratulations! Welcome to the amazing world of parenthood! A beautiful picture.

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  • Lorraine says: July 23, 2013 at 9:29 AM

    Congratulations! I agree, take a nap when Jr. takes a nap. If mom is nursing, then it’s harder on her so she REALLY needs to nap when the baby does, but easier said than done.

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  • Jenny says: July 23, 2013 at 5:03 PM

    Aww, he’s beautiful. Congratulations. Sleep does return, honest. Just takes a while!

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  • Mike says: July 24, 2013 at 1:27 AM

    When he’s a bit older, invite your mother-in-law to stay, and go to a hotel with your wife. Works for us!

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  • lexborgia says: July 24, 2013 at 2:08 AM

    LP+C, thanks for stopping by; much appreciated. Now try to get some sleep…if you can. Cheers.

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  • inloveathome says: July 24, 2013 at 4:37 AM

    Really, do 134 people have advice on how to get sleep because I’ve got NOTHING! Congrats and good luck. Sleep when the baby sleeps and pump so dad can do a few night feedings. It makes all the difference.

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  • Angela says: July 24, 2013 at 6:49 AM

    What a beautiful picture.
    I agree with Butterflymumma because when my boy was first born I didn’t sleep at all at night for the first 3 months. I wont sugar coat it; it is horrendous. I found myself obsessing over how many hours I’d had and adding them up. Adding up how many times I’d been up and for how long. Once I stopped doing this I felt better; it was as if I had taken the pressure off myself.
    Very important to remember that it will not last forever.
    If only we all had nannies and night nurses like William and Kate probably do!

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  • twirlingbetty says: July 24, 2013 at 8:29 PM

    Huge congratulations on the arrival of your beautiful babe. This period of wonder/fatigue/wind will be one of the sweetest of your life. Can’t, despite two (ongoing I’m happy to say) attempts at parenthood, give you any advice for getting sleep. What I can tell you is that when you do suddenly get 5 hours in a row you’re going to feel like you’ve just had 12 hours straight of miraculously restorative sleep – CFS or no CFS. It’s in your future…sit tight!

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  • butcheringsaint says: July 24, 2013 at 8:36 PM

    Great congratulations are in order first of all. Second of all, there is no one thing that helps one get sleep through the little child years. It’s sort of a comedy routine upon retrospect but at the time, it is an amazing amount of perseverance while fatigued. Cheers, and good luck. If you figure it out without losing sleep let us know (4 kids later and we still haven’t figured out everything!

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  • June Faramore says: July 24, 2013 at 11:00 PM

    I call mine the boy too. He’s twelve now. Sleep, well, that’s a seperate issue. I had a lot of issues with it even when he was able to sleep through the night because I was so afraid he was going to randomly die. My best suggestion is nap when he does, be up when he is. Trying to have a normal sleep schedule with a new baby in the house is an exercise in futility, so best to just accept that and catch some rest when you can.

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  • Bianca says: July 25, 2013 at 6:02 AM

    Congratulations! The boy is incredibly cute which is going to help him a lot when you still haven’t slept 2 years down from now. Don’t worry your get used to it.

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  • djmatticus says: July 25, 2013 at 6:16 AM

    We found that when we took the little prince out of his normal element he would sleep for longer than normal – at 2 months old we took him to Mammoth Mountain and he slept through the night for the first time. Since then we’ve kept his activity schedule fairly packed and whenever he is spending the night away from home he sleeps longer and sounder.

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    • Lachlan Payne says: July 25, 2013 at 7:09 AM

      Sounds like the perfect excuse for a holiday!

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      • djmatticus says: July 25, 2013 at 7:50 AM

        Exactly!! Next month we are flying from CA to Maine… with our five month old. Good times.

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  • Zehra says: July 25, 2013 at 6:52 AM

    Don’t count the hours. Best advice that worked for me. For four months couldn’t sleep for more than 4 hours at a stretch. But those 4 months won’t even matter later. life wont be as before, but it’ll be good nonetheless. And this is from me, the reluctant mother. I’m enjoying motherhood now, so I guess it isnt all that bad!

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  • theworldoutsidethewindow says: July 25, 2013 at 6:53 AM

    Congratulations. My son is 3 and I am still waiting for a good nights sleep. It is a kind of tiredness though that is to be cherished because, I know this is a cliché, they do grow up so quickly and them being small is so precious and hopefully I will have plenty of years to sleep in when my children have grown up. My daughter has always slept very well from a young age so my son’s more irregular sleeping habits were a shock to the system but still amazingly worth it :)

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  • Bar Science says: July 25, 2013 at 2:17 PM

    Too precious! Congratulations!

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  • nickie says: July 26, 2013 at 4:56 AM

    Dude, you’re not going to get good sleep for a long time:) Congrats, anyway to you and your wife! I’m thrilled for you:)

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  • WilderWasabi says: July 26, 2013 at 1:58 PM

    Hop into a time machine and re-experience all that spare time you never knew you had, then zip back to the present, refreshed and energized! In lieu of time machine… wait a couple of years… the baby will train you to be stronger, more resilient creatures who do not require as much sleep, and who actually *cannot* sleep even if they try! Congratulations Lachlan and Cathy on your very beautiful baby boy! He is gorgeous! Don’t worry, the time really does pass very fast, and baby turns into teenager so quick… even if it doesn’t seem like it right now. Enjoy every minute that you possibly can… especially that lovely scent of new baby skin. :)

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  • embracingms says: July 26, 2013 at 3:23 PM

    Great writing – entertaining and heartfelt across the blogs. My advice is rely on aunts and uncles for respite; that’s what my babied up brother and friends do with me!

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  • Finding Zettie says: July 26, 2013 at 4:20 PM

    Take naps when the baby sleeps. Or you could just take more photos as baby sleeps and changes everyday…that’s what I did :) I would say it gets easier, but really it just gets different in the best kind of ways! Sounds like you will be tired anyway with CFS, at least your little one is a way better reason for being tired :) Hang in there! I am a new reader and have enjoyed the blog so far. Your little one is so cute!
    Thank you for stopping by our blog, Finding Zettie. We hope you enjoy our journey, too!

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  • workingmomcooksblog says: July 26, 2013 at 11:35 PM

    Congratulations! He’s a beautiful baby. With my baby now a big boy, we tried our best to have a consistent schedule and routine. I think that helped him to be good sleeper.

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  • Leigh Sanders says: July 27, 2013 at 5:36 AM

    Lachlan, it will all be over soon. Too soon. Learn to appreciate the morning and all the beauty found in every hour of the day. I was awake for nearly two years with my second, it nearly killed me, but when I think back on that sleeplessness, I do not see anything but untethered love.

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  • inanimategrace says: July 27, 2013 at 5:57 AM

    The advice of a stranger: Read _Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child_ by Marc Weissbluth, and accept that infants need infinitely more sleep than you would think, let your son nap every time he is tired (about once an hour when he is a newborn), and then perhaps at eight or ten weeks he will begin sleeping through the night. Yes, I know, impossible, but the odds are not bad. I have two and have been fairly successful, so long as I prioritise their sleep over all else — which, of course, is not always plausible if I wish to be a sane human being, but I do what I can.

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  • Bella Bremer says: July 27, 2013 at 7:05 AM

    Go with your gut instinct. It’s the shortest book ever written about parenting. That’s all you have to do. Enjoy

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  • Paul J. Stam says: July 27, 2013 at 7:17 AM

    I don’t know what to tell you about getting sleep because it’s been so many years, 60 or more, since I had those new addition experiences. In the meantime I want to thank you for liking “Murder Sets Sail – Excerpt 3″ On writingiam.wordpress.com. – Aloha – pjs.

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  • dumbbelldivas says: July 27, 2013 at 9:12 AM

    There is no such thing as a good nights sleep anymore – well possibly when they move out. My daughter is 5 and I still don’t sleep. Growing up, I always remember my mom staying awake (sometimes till 3am) waiting for me to get home safely. The best thing you can do is sleep when the baby sleeps. Obviously as he gets older naps will become less and less, but hopefully by that time nights become longer and more quiet!

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  • sarahcolliver says: July 27, 2013 at 6:16 PM

    I remember how overwhelming and tiring it is in those early days, but as the stretch between feeds increases so will the sleep. It will not be too long before it all changes again. My advice is ‘don’t sweat the small stuff’ in these early days, things that will wait (ironing, dusting – for example) CAN wait…the most important thing is nurturing and soaking up the special moments. My two boys and now 13 and 11 and the time has flown by so quickly, it feels like in the blink of an eye. Treasure these exhausting, upside down times, one day you will look back on them with fondness and longing – I promise!! :) x

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  • silverbells2012 says: July 27, 2013 at 6:47 PM

    First, congratulations. Second, I feel for you – sleep deprivation is horrid. First decent night’s sleep I got was when my daughter was nearly six but I had no support so take whatever help you can get.

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  • hilarycustancegreen says: July 27, 2013 at 8:15 PM

    Sleep when he sleeps.

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  • Mummy Em says: July 27, 2013 at 9:21 PM

    My advice? Learn not to expect a good night’s sleep. It’s a hell of an adjustment. I have been there and I promise you it gets better. I hated the whole first year. Now I want another because my toddler is so freaking awesome. The days (and nights) are loooooong but the years are short my friend. This too shall pass. In the meantime – trust your instincts, love your baby and be gentle with yourself xxx

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  • artbyisabel says: July 27, 2013 at 11:10 PM

    Lovely picture. Sleeping is over rated lol. Enjoy the moment they are so cute at that age. If you think you are tired now wait till he starts running around and getting into everything :) but these are just stages and you will adapt through each one. Have fun and enjoy.

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  • francisguenette says: July 28, 2013 at 1:57 AM

    I’m so happy to have stopped by your blog at such an exciting time of your life!! There is no advice about the lack of sleep thing – part of the package deal called parenthood. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger – right? Enjoy the moment.

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  • cameilb says: July 28, 2013 at 2:49 AM

    Congrats on your new bundle! He’s beautiful!! Thank you for liking my post yesterday! It somehow deleted and it’s not in my Trash bin =/ I’m going to try and rewrite it but I do appreciate that at least someone got to read it in its essence. Thanks again!

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  • Iris says: July 28, 2013 at 5:36 AM

    Congratulations! I’d say ‘get used to not getting enough sleep’ beacuse with three children, that pretty much sums up my personal experience ;-). That said, being a mom is the best thing I am and I wouldn’t trade it for the world. Enjoy every minute because (yes, utter cliché) it all goes by much too quickly! Don’t forget to cuddle and hug and spoil your wife, though :-)

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  • Bethany Alcock says: July 28, 2013 at 1:22 PM

    He’s beautiful, congratulations. You’ll get used to the no sleep thing, don’t worry. It will surprise you how well you can function with so few z’s, it’s one of those natural parent perks.

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  • infertileprincess says: July 29, 2013 at 2:58 PM

    He is so sweet. Congratulations. I enjoyed your post and your blog. I have nominated you for the Liebster Award. Please click on the link to learn more. http://theinfertileprincess.com/2013/07/29/liebster-award-nominee-thats-me

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  • mknunu says: July 29, 2013 at 3:09 PM

    Awww, what a beautiful pic! congratulations to you and your wife on your new bundle of joy :)

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  • Melisa says: July 30, 2013 at 3:12 AM

    Hello to Lachlan Jr! I wish him the best, and good health too.

    An advice on how to get a good night’s sleep…I think for now you just need to summon your perhaps hidden talent of being able to sleep and wake up quickly (but recharged enough)! :-)

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  • Spirituwellness says: July 30, 2013 at 6:26 AM

    What a stunningly beautiful picture. Creating a baby is at one time the easiest and the most difficult thing in the world. Mostly because you aren’t just creating a baby, you are inaugurating a life.

    I am not a parent (though I wish I were…I’ve worked with a lot of youth over the years) but I would offer this. The most well balanced and super adjusted young people I meet all have parents who give them good healthy doses of unconditional love. I’m not talking about letting the kid have their way all the time, or no boundaries, or any of this “modern parenting” stuff. I mean parents who are completely engaged in their kids process from their kid’s perspective. They say no, they say yes, they provide comfort, and they let them fall down. Unconditional love is very well rounded and the key is that it is ego free. I look at what my parent friends go through in those first days, weeks, months as the initial test of that ego free time. Its in those first interactions that the child learns that you are the parent and that no matter what, you will love them for the rest of your lives, simply because they exist. Blessings to you both.

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  • Connie Hanks - ClickyChickCreates.com says: July 30, 2013 at 8:14 AM

    Congratulations! He’s precious and perfect! Since you asked, here’s my advice: Don’t let “Lachlan Jr” sleep more than 1-1/2 hours at a time during the day. Our pediatrician suggested this on our 3rd day as parents while we were still in the hospital as my first born had slept for a 5 hr nap the day before and was up ALL NIGHT. The dr. said she mixed up her days and nights. Had he not suggested that, I may have actually left her there! She would take lots of naps, and that was okay, but not any one nap for more than 1-1/2 hour. We’d wake her for a diaper change or feeding or cuddles. She was sleeping through the night (8 hours) by 3 weeks! We did the same with our second baby, and she was sleeping through the night by 6 weeks. Good luck!

    Also, it may seem hard at times and you’ll wonder “how are there 6, almost 7, billion people in the world?”, but remember to enjoy the little things that will be gone faster than you realize… the tucked under knees and legs when he rests on your shoulder, the little baby breath sighs, the way he’ll gaze up at you. Put down the phone, the iPad, the computer. Don’t try to multi-task when he’s awake. Enjoy him. Those moments go fast!

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  • Mckenzie says: July 30, 2013 at 10:33 AM

    Hey, there! :) I’m an aunt of 15 and I was a nanny, too. My advice on the sleep? When the baby wakes up for a feeding, and you go into the baby’s room to feed him? Don’t turn on the lights. I know that might sound silly, but a lot of people make that mistake. The lights wake the baby up even more, and then they cause some day/night confusion.

    K.

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  • Amy says: July 30, 2013 at 10:35 AM

    Congrats to the Payne fam! We’re living in perpetual fog as well and misery loves company, right? (And obviously by “we”, I mean “me” because I am the sole source of sustenance for our child.) I swear the fog lifts one day though because I think I remember being fully conscious when my first was around 6 months old.

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  • 11315miles says: July 30, 2013 at 11:42 AM

    Congratulations to the both of you! Mine is 18 and going to school in the Fall. You have many days of happiness ahead!

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  • darsword says: July 30, 2013 at 11:57 AM

    Congratulations! Wow. I had four, now grown. Your heart can’t get enough but the body… Now at 63 two cats is too much. I wish I had advice for you and your wife to get through this with all the pain. I think the best was said above, sleep when the baby sleeps. That doesn’t get the housework or other tasks done but as my mother-in-law once told me, “The rest won’t matter in a hundred years.” She recently passed at nearly a hundred years old. Not one of us talked about her housekeeping skills. It was her wisdom and love that we all hold dear. Speaking of her that wisdom, I have found more energy when I add nutritional yeast to everything. She used it most of her life. Enjoy the boy!

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  • hubertwrites says: July 30, 2013 at 1:54 PM

    Refer to my most recent post, but switch making sure you go to the bathroom ‘first’ with make sure the baby is okay for a long nights sleep too.

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  • soberlivin says: July 30, 2013 at 2:11 PM

    Never ever, ever, well maybe if there is a fire, wake a sleeping baby. Even when they tell you they need to eat every two hours or four hours. A baby knows she is hungry. She will let you know.

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  • migrainepuzzlepieces says: July 30, 2013 at 2:49 PM

    I don’t have a baby, but the one rule I hear often from seasoned parents to new ones is, “Sleep when they are sleeping.” They say don’t worry about cleaning or anything else on the list. “Sleep when they are sleeping.” :)

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    • Lachlan Payne says: July 30, 2013 at 2:59 PM

      That’s what I’m hearing!

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      • Release says: July 31, 2013 at 7:29 AM

        Beautiful kid, congratulations!

        Sleep when they sleep is number one with a bullet. Also: there’s no point in both you and your wife being tired, so if you’re both tired and only one of you can sleep, one of you should sleep. Also, there’s no harm in giving them a pacifier if it helps you function better.

        Three things to remember: 1. Things are weird and great and wonderful now, but amazingly, it keeps getting better. 2. Enjoy the days in which they are still immobile. 3. You’re in a strange, upset, tumultuous phase of life. But remember that the important thing isn’t the birth or the newness of it all or the state of emergency which goes away really quickly. The important thing is that this new person is with you for the rest of your life. That’s the really big thing. That’s what your eyes should be on.

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  • migrainepuzzlepieces says: July 30, 2013 at 2:50 PM

    BTW your son is beautiful. Congrats to you and your wife!!!

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    • Lachlan Payne says: July 30, 2013 at 2:59 PM

      Thank you.

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      • migrainepuzzlepieces says: July 30, 2013 at 3:09 PM

        Just wanted to say I love your blog. Your writing style is very engaging. You successfully convey your feelings so the reader can empathize. Oh and you also know how to give us a good chuckle (e.g. 3 Things I Learned in Birth Class – Hilarious). I wish they had a like all posts button :).

        I wish you all the best as you enjoy your expanded family.

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  • JStein says: July 30, 2013 at 4:31 PM

    How to have a good nights sleep? Don’t have a baby.

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  • Admin says: July 30, 2013 at 6:18 PM

    Congrats from Gotland- Sweden! Happy to hear you are having the full parental experience.
    And yes….it does get better. The littla one wont sleep more..but you get used to it :)

    All the best, Lena

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  • elshaunoaus says: July 30, 2013 at 10:23 PM

    First of all, great pic. Secondly, I love point 2! Hope you both get a chance to sleep in sometime soon :-)

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  • Non-Flapdoodle-ental says: July 30, 2013 at 10:37 PM

    He’s adorabs!! Congrats. I’m faaaaar away from having kids so no advice from my end yet. Though will be needing yours in future so have a great experience and do share !! :)

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  • maemalone says: July 31, 2013 at 12:18 AM

    Beautiful… and thanks for the like…xx

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  • Veronica Sobralski says: July 31, 2013 at 1:04 AM

    I’m not sure there is good advice on getting sleep because even if you sleep when he’s sleeping, you wake up groggy. I will tell you though by 8 weeks I felt in sync with the baby finally and that it gets easier everyday by this point. It took me time to get to that point, but when you do, you’ll look at him and realize oh this is easier now. And a sigh of relief will come over you.

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  • nomorecv64 says: July 31, 2013 at 2:16 AM

    Sleep: Do it when you’re dead. You’re not getting a sleep, bro. Have fun unless there’s something wrong with you. Just have good music readily available.

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  • Woolly Muses says: July 31, 2013 at 9:53 AM

    Belated congratulations on the arrival of Lachlan Jr. I s,oiled when I read the phrase about “looking back ing 18years”… It will go so quickly it will not be funny. Enjoy all the moments you can. Our baby has not long turned twenty-one and nearly twenty five years have passed since number one came on the scene. And it seems like just yesterday in some respects.

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  • quiltnmama says: July 31, 2013 at 11:01 AM

    Congratulations…he’s precious! My oldest is about to turn 14 and I’m assured by those who’ve parented longer than I that you’ll never, ever get another decent night’s sleep as long as you live. Enjoy!

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  • atkokosplace says: July 31, 2013 at 3:36 PM

    Both my babies slept through the night. 6-8 hours. I hear I am lucky. However, I say; dry diaper and a full belly before bed. I also took naps when they did. Best of luck to you and your beautiful baby.

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  • Put a shot of bourbon in his bottle at night. My father did it with me and look how good I turned out. Holy crap, I crack myself up!

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  • Gina says: July 31, 2013 at 8:52 PM

    Hi! I’ve nominated you for the Versatile Blogger Award! Have a lovely day!

    http://aussieg.wordpress.com/2013/07/31/versatile-blogger-award/

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  • Ishaiya says: July 31, 2013 at 11:45 PM

    As a mother of 3 fairly young children, forget about ever having a decent night’s sleep again :D The only way I manage it is by leaving the country for a week, or admitting yourself into hospital. No seriously, I kid you not, even though I am a big kidder, and a big kid. Welcome to the world of parenthood, and to selling your soul. A huge congratulations by the way. It’s also an amazing adventure you’re embarked upon.
    Have a great week!
    Ishaiya

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    • Lachlan Payne says: August 1, 2013 at 6:26 AM

      Thanks Ishaiya. I think I might leave the country.

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      • Ishaiya says: August 1, 2013 at 7:10 AM

        hehe, that’s what I’m doing :)… I will come back though… it is good to come back…

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  • MELewis says: August 2, 2013 at 3:25 AM

    Sleep will return faster than you imagine. You will turn around and he will be eighteen. Then you’ll wonder where all the time went. So enjoy the moments…and félicitations on the beautiful baby.

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  • MasonBentley says: August 5, 2013 at 2:31 AM

    What a beautiful boy!! Huge congratulations on the birth of two parents..and a wonderful son! My only advise..happy parents make happy children..and whatever it takes to make that happen.. xxxxxx

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  • SHITBAGSTER says: August 6, 2013 at 2:29 AM

    The meals, the naps & the farts only get bigger. Oh, and so do the shoes.

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  • mbventuro says: August 6, 2013 at 5:27 AM

    Congratuations! We are on opposite ends of the child spectrum, I am empty nesting, you are just beginning! THank you for stopping by my blog. I hope you check in once in awhile. I hope to incorporate parenting tricks and observations I’ve learned along the way, in my posts, even though my kids are no longer littles.
    As for sleep, there is no magic cure-all. Give yourselves permission to nap. When the baby naps, nap with him. Some of the best photos we have are of daddy napping with one of my girls happily snuggled in his chest.

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  • fatfreddysproject says: August 6, 2013 at 6:07 AM

    He’s adorable, congratulations! The best thing in life, to get a baby. Sleep? It gets better.

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  • tcopelandfilm says: August 6, 2013 at 7:13 AM

    I’m nineteen so I can’t offer much advice in sidestepping the sleepless nights but remember that unhappiness does not exist outside of humans, it lives only in interpretation and response. Yes, there will be sleepless nights, but enjoy every one of them ;) Congrats.

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  • Bob Evenhouse says: August 6, 2013 at 12:02 PM

    Well, advice on sleep, hmm. It takes time. My wife and I are platooning sleep right now. She is sleeping five hours or so, then I take a nap. Not the best for marriage, but you have to sleep when the baby sleeps. If that interferes with your day job, just try to take a nap before and after work if possible. Otherwise just listen to those you know who have gone through it and lean on them for advice and to vent. Hang in there. It does get a ton better.

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  • sassymikee says: August 7, 2013 at 1:01 PM

    Hello Sir, firstly thankyou for liking my post. It’s nice to read your articles. Beautiful bub you have. Congratulations! :)

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  • nick1b says: August 8, 2013 at 7:44 AM

    They’re so cute at that age :) especially when they’re small enough to wrap up in a blanket in a burrito lol

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  • Tony Acree says: August 8, 2013 at 1:22 PM

    Have a friend come over and watch our little one while you nap. As the father of twin girls, sleep was very hard to come by, as they had to be fed every 4 hours. So once a week, friends would come over and take turns watching and feeding them wile we got 8 hours sleep. HEAVEN!

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  • ferniglab says: August 8, 2013 at 5:46 PM

    We all slept together – against the ‘rules’ in Western medicine, but accepted practice the world over. Never had uninterrupted sleep, but that is a myth, but also never had massive crying – a breast was always there for food and endorphins, Dad for nappy changes (the Night Owl does the night shift, of course!). The only rule on this one is no alcohol (or other drugs, of course). One mouthful of beer and you can no longer sense the presence of the baby. Otherwise, no matter how tired you are, you will not roll onto the baby, you always sense they are there.

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  • jennifromrollamo says: August 10, 2013 at 12:48 AM

    #1 Congratulations on the birth of your baby boy! #2 When he is sleeping, try to rest yourself. #3 I am a mom to seven, and all of my babies were 8 lbs and various ounces at birth; twins were 7 lbs. and various ounces. I found that when my babies were nearing the 9-10 lbs range, they began to sleep all night-going to bed at 11:00 pm or midnight, and waking at 5 am or 6 am. Just hang in there and it will happen, you’ll be getting your normal sleep cycle back. It will happen!!!

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    • Lachlan Payne says: August 10, 2013 at 7:27 AM

      I can’t wait! Boy is just shy of 9lb now. Still waking every couple of hours, though.

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  • Star Davies says: August 10, 2013 at 4:34 AM

    Congrats on your little one! They are so much fun. If you need advice about sleeping (or getting them to sleep) you can find a lot of tips on the site http://www.tipsforthefirsttimemom.com Sleep, feeding, schedules, sanity… everything is there.

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  • The Gables says: August 10, 2013 at 8:25 PM

    Thank you Lachlan for following my blog. You have made my day! And what a beautiful little boy you have. Congratulations. My advice is just sit and look at him and burn his image into your mind, they grow up far too quickly. Take care. Lisa

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  • misslampa says: August 11, 2013 at 12:15 AM

    I’ve never been a parent, but when I saw the picture of your baby, I was compelled to leave a comment so I can tell you how adorably cute he is! I’m sure you know that already as well, but still. :-))))

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  • intlxpatr says: August 11, 2013 at 12:51 AM

    Woooo HOOOOO! What a wonderful baby!

    There is no such thing as a good nights sleep. No secrets. IF you can sleep when the baby is sleeping, do so, but many new parents have laundry to do, dishes to wash, showers to take, etc. all things that the all-attention-consuming baby keeps one from doing while awake being adorable, or crying. Little by little he will settle down – and so will you. You will celebrate every three hours stretch you get, the peace, the serenity of a time when the baby does not need attention. In about three years, life will seem more normal, and you will be preparing for the chaos of your next baby, LOL! Welcome to parenthood, a wonderful place.

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  • sonyanegley says: August 11, 2013 at 3:48 AM

    Beautiful. Tiredness and fatigue completely worth it. Savor it. Believe it or not, you will miss it when its over.

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  • bugsmoney says: August 11, 2013 at 4:51 AM

    Congrats ! and well ..success ! i’m sure you 2 will do a great job parrenting

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  • samaloda says: August 11, 2013 at 8:13 AM

    The best advice I can give you, having survived the first three months, is to remember that just because your child isn’t asleep doesn’t mean that you can’t be. Mine happens to be an early riser and I happen to have a second shift job…if I don’t feel like getting up at 5:30am, then I feed him, and let him entertain himself for a half an hour to an hour in a safe environment (crib, etc.). He’ll punch and kick the air, to his delight, and I’ll feel less like putting him up for adoption (too late?). Win-win.

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  • bigragerelease says: August 11, 2013 at 9:24 PM

    Congratulations on Lachlan jnr. What a special time for you and your family. As a single parent of five children ranging in ages from 22 down to 6 I can tell you that sleep is a commodity in short supply. You will either learn to sleep as and when you can fit it in. or you will eventually get the wee man in a routine. Me, I developed a kind of bus narcolepsy where I slept on the hour long bus journey to and from work. I am sure of one thing, regardless of lack of sleep you are on a great journey and the joy of watching him grow, learn and have fun will more than make up for the sleep deprivation.

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  • Chas Spain says: August 12, 2013 at 12:39 AM

    Lachlan – so kind of you to drop my blog when you clearly have plenty of things in hand – well done you two + one! The post you kindly liked showed the effects of 21 years of parenting! Still alive and together (basically we are too knackered and too poor to do anything about the state of our marriage… :>) The last two kids still in the nest are running ahead of us on the beach and we still feel a bit sad the big girl isn’t there too – although the 3 of them together drive us completely mad. Would we do it all again? Oh yes – it is a journey through life which sets you onto a path of crazy unpredictable bitter sweet joy. Watch Ron Howard’s Parenthood if you can find time and then watch it again every five years. Steve Martin’s Grandmother offers the best advice on parenting and it took me a while to work that out.

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  • Orisphoto says: August 12, 2013 at 2:46 AM

    Nice blog I’m discovering, I hope one day I’ll have one of my picture in it ;)

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  • Theresa says: August 12, 2013 at 5:11 AM

    Hi! Thanks for visiting my 365 Project blog. You seem like an inspirational and interesting person who deserves an extra follow on his blog, so I shall do exactly that :) Congratulations to you and your wife on your baby!

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  • mamathegeek says: August 12, 2013 at 6:30 AM

    Learn to feed laying down, and don’t be afraid to co-sleep (though do make sure your bed is safe for a little one – check out http://www.isisonline.org.uk/ for information). Once this trick is mastered, even waking up multiple times a night becomes a doddle! In my experience, best to wait until breastfeeding is going smoothly and baby has a really good latch with no discomfort first. Good luck! He’s gorgeous! :)

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  • intimacywithjesus says: August 12, 2013 at 7:47 AM

    I’ve struggled with insomnia since childhood (that’s 20+ years). I’ve late, it seems that melatonin and l-theanine supplements have been working for me, though you may have already tried these. God’s best to you and your family!

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  • darsword says: August 13, 2013 at 10:18 AM

    I hope you and your family are well. I love your blog so much that I have nominated you for the Versatile Blogger Award. Take your time (It took me two weeks, had I a new baby and fibro, it might have taken me months. Even so, you deserve the nomination!
    http://darsword.wordpress.com/2013/08/12/versatile-blogger-award/

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    • Lachlan Payne says: August 13, 2013 at 1:10 PM

      Thank you kindly. We’re well but busy!

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      • darsword says: August 13, 2013 at 2:34 PM

        I figured. Enjoy as much as you can. Mine are all grown up and I can’t tell you how much I miss those early days, even the smellie dirty diapers and middle of the night playtimes (nine months old–they were so much fun at that age).

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  • leveluphealth says: August 14, 2013 at 4:10 PM

    You baby is truly beautiful, and those are great qualities you’ve pasted on to your baby. On the other side of sleep, do it when you can when you’re tired in a relaxed environment. Listen to your body :)

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  • pooski01 says: August 16, 2013 at 4:18 PM

    My baby is now 10. He was up all night and slept all day. I drank gallons of coffee (wasn’t b-feeding as I’m pretty sure your not. lol) You will find your groove and that beautiful baby will bring you so much happiness. Enjoy every late night feeding when it’s quiet out and in the summer time warm and they fall asleep on your chest. Nothing like that skin on skin when they are babies. Sorry no advice. Just breath him in……you will NEVER get those days back. They are lots of fun though when they can start to play the guitar or throw a ball. Whatever you do you will do it your way and it will be the right way. Thank you for liking my blog. It’s my first one.ever..

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  • designatweeta says: August 16, 2013 at 7:19 PM

    Ah thank you for the like, your little one is very sweet. My brother had a baby in June this year too, it’s a special time. Happy weekend to you and your family over there in Australia

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  • jpicco says: August 16, 2013 at 10:54 PM

    Joining you soon, bro. October 8th due date!

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  • Ruta says: August 17, 2013 at 1:26 AM

    Thank you for the like.
    I don’t know much about babies or giving sleeping advices (I sleep pretty bad without having a baby, ha-ha). If you can, sleep when you have a chance :-) Your baby is beautiful.

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  • lensandpensbysally says: August 17, 2013 at 4:00 AM

    Join us for our Phoneography Monday Challenge.

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  • egyptrican says: August 17, 2013 at 4:31 AM

    What a cutie pie! You’re very lucky! :)

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  • One shot on day! says: August 17, 2013 at 8:13 AM

    hey you are my first like ever! thanks for the support. I’m gonna try and keep that project going! Thanks again and what a beatiful baby!

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  • Nativegrl77 says: August 17, 2013 at 10:33 AM

    awwww … congrats !!! we can all give y’all advice but … ENJOY !

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  • Holistic Wayfarer says: August 17, 2013 at 1:17 PM

    CONGRATULATIONS!!! I was wondering how wife was coming along. Did she go natural?

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    • Lachlan Payne says: August 17, 2013 at 4:45 PM

      All the way. Although some medication was needed post-birth for surgery.

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  • onepawfectday says: August 17, 2013 at 4:32 PM

    Congratulations ,what a beautiful little person.

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  • Kimberly says: August 18, 2013 at 11:10 AM

    Sleep when the baby sleeps. The ___________ (<——insert pretty much anything here) will have to wait, and it will still be there until you are rested. Congratulations!

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  • iseebeautyallaroundbyrobpaine says: August 20, 2013 at 3:40 AM

    great photo and thanks so much for liking my four oclock photo, Rob

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  • womenembracinggodandeachother says: August 20, 2013 at 7:29 AM

    Congratulations!!!

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  • Leanova Designs says: August 20, 2013 at 9:52 AM

    Congrats :) as a mother of 3 I say the best thing is to let them learn hoe to sleep on their own. Keep a feeding schedule, better for both of you. Once he passes 3 months then start by giving a big meal at bed time then skip the next feeding. If needed let him “cry it out” the rule is 3 days or 4 and they’ll learn to sleep through. Usually the earlier you start the better cause they adapt faster. Good luck ;)

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  • dawnhosking says: August 20, 2013 at 6:39 PM

    Congratulations ;)

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  • Geetha says: August 20, 2013 at 8:39 PM

    Congratulations!

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  • bluepagespecial says: August 21, 2013 at 1:18 AM

    Congratulations and thanks for stopping by my blog!

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  • Maryam Jamil says: August 22, 2013 at 9:13 PM

    congrats

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  • Tina DC Hayes says: August 23, 2013 at 1:34 PM

    He’s precious! Congrats!

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  • Beth - Our Montessori Life says: August 23, 2013 at 1:55 PM

    The reasoning mind doesn’t happen until around the age of 6. Before then children base their knowledge on what has happened before. Long story short, the ability to set a routine early allows for easier transitions later on. If you feed him in the same comfy place everyday, and then you lay him down to sleep in the same place everyday, at roughly the same time, eventually (quite soon actually) he will know what he’s required to do after feeding. Healthy baby’s are able to sleep through long stretches (or all) night as early as 2-3 months. Take comfort in the knowledge that the possibility of sleep is just around the corner.

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  • yi-ching lin says: August 23, 2013 at 5:33 PM

    beautiful, and congratulations!! (smile), y

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  • maspring37 says: August 23, 2013 at 8:43 PM

    Congratulations. I raised 5 children and still do not know how I did it as my husband worked away for 3 weeks at a time. Still, you are in good company as Prince William says that his baby doesn’t sleep. You might need matchsticks for a few months but , boy, is it worth it.

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  • itscrystalgrace says: August 24, 2013 at 12:48 AM

    Congratulations Cathy! I spoke to you months ago about sororities… but I’m back on my blog and happier than ever to hear of your great news! Children are a blessing and I wish you both the best :)

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  • activeharmony says: August 24, 2013 at 2:21 AM

    Congratulations!!

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  • lindaripperphotography says: August 24, 2013 at 11:26 AM

    Congrats, I am another one who says sleep when they sleep during the day, if you need stuff done about the home call a good friend and ask for help… Also dont get into the habit of taking them into your bed of a night time or early hours of the morning otherwise its a hard habit to break later, I used to take my little fella ( now almost 8 ) for his afternoon nap in bed which was great because as he got to be a toddler he was used to that routine when all he wanted to do was run around all day long but knew nap time was nap time, as soon as he was asleep I would get up… Most of all enjoy every moment, the good, the bad and the EVIL… xxx

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  • Tina Schell says: August 25, 2013 at 12:11 PM

    Congrats! My advice? Remember why you’re exhausted and it won’t feel so awful :-)

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  • freyathewriter says: August 26, 2013 at 6:11 PM

    Thank you for following my blog :)
    Congrats on your new heir!
    Finally, your description of CFS and fybro is excellent. I have a friend who struggled with both and had to stop work. She could never explain to many people’s satisfaction what it was like. Your rebuttals of everyone’s suggestions – brilliant!
    Good luck with your new life as ‘Dad’!

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  • sewfiction says: August 26, 2013 at 7:00 PM

    So there the most beautiful image of the week and its only Monday morning! Congratulations! Lay down and reflect on the bliss of your new arrival, and all the joyous years sprawled out in front of you. Imagine how many times will pass in which you will hold those currently tiny hands, how many times to come will you look into those eyes and speak to him – What are all the things you have to say? You will be asleep before you know it! :) Congratz again!

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  • irishroverpei says: August 26, 2013 at 8:42 PM

    Way to go Mom and Dad!!! thanks for visiting my blog.

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  • twistnpout says: August 26, 2013 at 11:00 PM

    Fantastic photo – congratulations. Sleep? Whats that? And my kids are 17 and 19! :)

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  • Rachelle @ Sweet Home Pasadena says: August 27, 2013 at 5:34 AM

    Belated congratulations–he is beautiful! Mine didn’t sleep well for the first 2 years. Sorry for the bad news. ;)

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  • SK says: August 27, 2013 at 4:12 PM

    Big congratulations :) He’s lovely.

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  • dzynr2 says: August 28, 2013 at 12:14 AM

    Babies are exhausting and expensive and utterly gorgeous. Enjoy him while he is little, all too soon he will be a gangling teenager who will be even more exhausting and expensive. But don’t panic eventually they grow up and I still think mine are gorgeous.

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  • Chris Christopherson says: August 28, 2013 at 11:09 PM

    Best of luck to you getting to enjoy fatherhood to the fullest and finding a cure to CFS and fibromyalgia. I haven’t any children of my own but I just hope he fills your life with joy and complete happiness.

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  • purplesus says: August 28, 2013 at 11:30 PM

    Smell behind his ear tis the best smell!

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  • highheelsandpinkglitter says: August 29, 2013 at 5:29 AM

    No advice on sleeping unfortunately, but congratulations and best of luck and health for the future.

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  • drybredquips says: August 29, 2013 at 7:51 AM

    Thanks for liking “driverless car” and for sharing the picture of your beautiful son. My advice regarding getting a good night’s sleep: forget about getting a good night’s sleep. Best to all.

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  • Ciarrai says: August 29, 2013 at 8:18 AM

    Congratulations on the arrival of that handsome little fellow!

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  • Jack Curtis says: August 29, 2013 at 11:48 AM

    Welcome to Nature’s Revenge!
    Sleep?
    1. Marry a wife who lets you sleep, taking care of things herself. (If any such remain available)
    2. Sleep in the car, at work…

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  • Kathleen G says: August 30, 2013 at 4:59 AM

    Thanks for visiting and liking my blog!

    What helped me with both mine was to sleep when they slept even if it meant going to bed at 7 PM! Please let everything else wait and enjoy this time, it goes fast! But it will also get better. He’s beautiful! :)

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  • simplyvegetarian777 says: August 30, 2013 at 9:46 PM

    Sweet bundle of joy :). Congratulations!

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  • Jeanna says: August 31, 2013 at 4:21 AM

    When my son was an infant, I literally slept at any moment I could. I survived off cat naps. Then one night, I simply started letting him sleep on my chest and we were both out, for a solid five hours (basically, as you know, this is more than solid gold is worth). Each parent does something different to suit their needs and the needs of their child. Co-sleeping was a life saver for me and wasn’t that difficult to break when the time came either. Best of luck- your little one is so precious!

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  • Jeffrey Sterling, MD says: August 31, 2013 at 4:44 AM

    Congrats and great picture. Brought back memories. Thanks for stopping by Straight, No Chaser. Here’s to you and your family’s health!

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  • appletonavenue says: August 31, 2013 at 9:00 AM

    Congratulations! As for getting sleep…leave the baby with your mom!

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  • nexi says: August 31, 2013 at 11:13 PM

    Congrats – best advice I got from a midwife was to support the baby under the chin – sitting upright – and keep their spine straight while you gently but firmly rub the back to wind them. Bath em, and they sleep like….er, babies after that!

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  • fikayo says: September 1, 2013 at 6:09 AM

    oh Bless, He’s so cute. All I can say dear is follow your gut, there is no hard and fact rule about parenting just make sure you are his best friend and all the rest should fall in place, I believe. Thanks for liking my post. you said he eats, sleeps and breaks wind. you didn’t had cry or did you get luck with that one?

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  • Judy says: September 1, 2013 at 9:52 AM

    Aww…he is so cute!! Darling little fellow. A big Congratulations to you!! :)

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  • Jubilee Journey says: September 1, 2013 at 1:37 PM

    Sleep, what’s that? My grandson will be 2 this month and we still aren’t guaranteed a full nights sleep. He had colic the first 6 months and cried most of the time. But there is good news. Your lack of sleep will soon turn to a new adventure. Actually by the times he’s 18months a day wont go by that you’re not amazed at the new word, new skill, new understanding. I have been fortunate and blessed to live with my Malakai and care for him while his mom works. He’s a never ending source of love and entertainment.
    Congratulations…get ready for the adventure of your life.

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  • Veronica says: September 2, 2013 at 11:29 AM

    Congratulations! Sleep will come eventually. In the mean time, try caffeine. It worked for my husband. I was breastfeeding, so I sat full of envy and watched him drink his Diet Coke.

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    • Lachlan Payne says: September 2, 2013 at 7:58 PM

      It’s been one year to the day since I had my last Coke… so I don’t think I’ll be picking up that bad habit again any time soon!

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  • ritazemgulyte says: September 5, 2013 at 11:01 PM

    Congratulations! These past months I seem to adore babies even more than I have, which seems impossible. You took such a lovely picture of his first days. It is really amazing! He looks so peaceful, very misleading, having in my you guys are definitely lacking sleep :)))

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  • taraisarockstar says: September 6, 2013 at 12:25 AM

    What an exciting time! Great photo. Babies are amazing models for photographers. No matter how tired I am from parenting, I make time to take as many photos as I can. Good luck to you and congrats on you new little one!

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  • raulconde001 says: September 6, 2013 at 3:34 AM

    Thanks for liking my post on “Astronomy”!

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  • robertsonwrites says: September 6, 2013 at 5:35 AM

    I have four kids, and I do not think you ever get to sleep….EVER….

    Hope that doesn’t dampen your spirits.

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  • maryduranteyoutt says: September 6, 2013 at 8:57 AM

    My best advice is to go with your gut feelings… you will learn quickly when your baby is in various sorts of distress. It’s in their type of cry. Also check the obvious, wet, pooped, constipation or severe gas. I never believed in letting a baby cry themselves to sleep. I believe in giving them the security they require. That said I don’t mean that they have to be in your arms every moment, but do lay your baby down, caress or hold his hand and speak or sing softly to reassure that you are not leaving them alone in the dark. And remember every child is different, you will find what works through trial and error. Congratulations to the new happy family. (sleep is overrated anyway ;-) Best wishes

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  • lubkin2013 says: September 7, 2013 at 2:48 AM

    Many congrats! Never having had children I have no advice to offer you. I’m sure you will be an excellent dad!

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  • floczok says: September 7, 2013 at 4:52 AM

    thanks for liking my blog! Congratulations, and just remember that this too will pass and only be a distant memory. Cherish the moments, for they are fleeting, especially with infants. As I am sure you already notice, little ones change by the day! Enjoy.

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  • shareinfotechnow says: September 7, 2013 at 8:13 AM

    Your baby is so cute. I am a father of 10 year old boy. My only advice is treasure each moment, each second, and each opportunity you spend time with your child. Before you know it, he’s already 10.

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  • grahamatlinc says: September 7, 2013 at 6:05 PM

    Congratulations. I’d give you 2 likes if I could. Insteaf :-) :-) :-)

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  • tanktopdsp says: September 8, 2013 at 11:57 PM

    We have found that trying to get into a cycle with the child to be the best trick we have learned. If you sleep at roughly the same times and make it regular enough you can get them sleeping through most the night easy. Felix is breaking out of this a bit now, but we are working on bringing it in now.

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  • Rhonda Sittig says: September 9, 2013 at 8:24 AM

    Wonderful to see that sweet new life. Happy for you all three! We raised for kids who are now raising babies of their own. As I remember it, just settling into a schedule and letting the baby fuss a bit and perhaps go back to sleep during the night, before you rush in to intervene. God bless you all in the busy, happy years ahead…

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  • appletonavenue says: September 9, 2013 at 9:27 AM

    Hope you update us soon on how you guys are doing with little Lachlan Jr.

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  • grahamatlinc says: September 9, 2013 at 10:01 AM

    In general a person can make many mistakes. It’s the ones we repeat, because we stopped listening, that cause all the trouble.

    I wish you joy of your child, and he of you.

    Regards Gram

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  • Rex says: September 10, 2013 at 1:32 PM

    Oh my god! Sweet little angel. They say angels dance on the head of a pin. Now this little angel will dance on his lovely parents’ head for a littel while till he grows up! :-)

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  • Lex Luther says: September 11, 2013 at 6:10 AM

    He’s precious! Congrats!

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  • jazzytower says: September 11, 2013 at 7:05 AM

    Congratulations on the little one. And thanks for stopping by.

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  • reocochran says: September 16, 2013 at 5:48 AM

    Oh, how sweet and precious your son looks! Congratulations! Hope you will find moments, be they short or long, to cherish him, enjoy your family visits and time to rest, too!

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  • Saurabh M says: September 24, 2013 at 4:09 PM

    Congratulations..! :)

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  • Mrs B says: September 30, 2013 at 12:40 AM

    Congratulations and buckle up for the most exhausting, exciting and most rewarding journey of your life ;-)

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  • Miss Fanny P says: September 30, 2013 at 7:08 PM

    congratulations. he is beautiful

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  • Melzzartt: Just another crazy creative says: October 1, 2013 at 12:19 AM

    congrats! Good night’s sleep? What is this sleep you speak of? ;)
    My boys are grown–they’re 18 and 26. Sleep left when I became pregnant with my first son. It’s not returned, since.

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  • Memories in France says: October 1, 2013 at 9:54 AM

    Congratulations on the birth of your son. I especially liked your comment on how your genes are being carried on.
    “All the boy does is eat, sleep and break wind, which, if nothing else, is a comforting reminder that my genes have been successfully passed on to the next generation.”
    Re sleep, having been awake for the past 32 hours sitting upright on a flight from Sydney to Paris, I am uncomfortable reminded of the similar feeling of lack of sleep when my daughter was born.
    Enjoy your son!

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  • thomasjford says: October 2, 2013 at 8:07 PM

    Congratulations Lachlan and Cathy. Get ready to up your Instagram usage one hundred fold!!

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  • Marg V says: October 6, 2013 at 9:05 AM

    He’s absolutely gorgeous! My best advice is – don’t let being an adult stop you from getting down on the ground with him and playing with Tonka toys, sliding down the slides, swinging on swings and getting as dirty – if not dirtier – than he will ever get. Enjoy him ever second of the day. It passes too quickly when you look back and wish for those sleepless nights of pacing the floor as you pace the floor in a quiet house and wonder where he went after 19 years.

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  • dancingwiththebeloved says: October 7, 2013 at 8:37 PM

    Congratulations Lachlan and Cathy and welcome to mister baby! Thanks for stopping by my blog, I really appreciate your visit because it led me to to your blog and your amazing photos and stories. Thanks for sharing, Nic

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  • Spy Garden says: October 8, 2013 at 12:19 PM

    Drink coffee! Take naps! Don’t set sleep goals like “I just need 3 hours of sleep” because you’ll just set yourself up for disappointment hahahahah You can sleep when you’re dead! haha ;) CONGRATS TO YOU!!!! Get dirty, make messes, learn from and with your kids. And of course, I have to say it, grow a garden (or some plants in pots)! Teach them about how food grows (they’ll be willing to eat–or at least try–every kind of veggie). And let them eat dirt! Oh, and don’t take anyone’s advice and just do what you feel is right HAHAHah ;)

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  • 'CC' Richards, Daytripper Sippers says: October 25, 2013 at 2:25 PM

    A belated congrats. i just popped by and saw this post. How did I miss it before. I hope that bub has settled in for you nicely. :-)

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  • Bailey Mikell says: December 27, 2013 at 4:24 AM

    Congratulations! I just saw that you had “liked” one of my posts and found my way over to your blog. I love the stories you tell and I know that they will only get better with this beautiful new life in your world. Cheers!

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  • livetorideridetolive says: January 3, 2014 at 4:38 PM

    Beautiful picture of your son!

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  • Tyrannosaurus Fir says: January 10, 2014 at 4:54 PM

    I hope Lachlan Jr. is doing well as of this writing. My youngest was born in July, too! But a year earlier than Lachlan Jr. Which means I’m glad to not be in your shoes, haha! I’m looking forward to following your blog as you’re the first person to “like” my site in an entire year who wasn’t keeping an adventure blog (as I call them) or trying to sell me skin care products. I’ve been on WordPress for a couple years but I’m basically just now starting in earnest to interact with others so don’t be afraid. And don’t be alarmed by my tendency to spell out “hahaha” a lot, I hate “LOL”.
    Jason

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    • Lachlan Payne says: January 10, 2014 at 5:17 PM

      Thanks Jason. The little guys just passed six months and is wearing us out! By the way, I have some skin care products you might be interested in…

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  • Jaclyn says: February 10, 2014 at 11:51 AM

    My baby is now 23 but the best thing I did when she was very young was to sleep as soon as she slept. Everything else can wait, your health and sanity cannot and should not! Beautiful photo, enjoy the precious journey, there is no other like it!

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  • Ayesha (Miss Spicy Hat n' Sugar Socks) says: February 19, 2014 at 8:57 PM

    A cute cute boy!! may he have a blessed future…. :)

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